beating a stuffed bunny with a stick or how to de-friend someone

so i have this friend i've known for... let's see... 15 years. bff's right away. then she gets preggo (young age but i'm not going there.)   does she call me when she goes into labor? nope. hit #1. she has a friend she's known since middle school who completely stopped talking to her. she gives her newly born daughter her middle name (like they have the same middle name - Kaye). as if i wasn't ALWAYS there for this chick or something. so that's hit #2. anyway, obviously i don't say anything and years go by where she is like beyond financially unstable. my husband and i help her out several times. no questions asked, even though some of her decisions were just ... wrong. so now it's 2011, she's divorced and remarried with tons of cold hard cash floating around her head. i have to say i was a bit jealous. of course i would never voice that out loud. this is the thing, after everything i've done for her, and i'm not talking just materialistically (is that even a word?) but i mean ALWAYS being on the other end of the phone when her first husband hit her, among other things, this is what i get: i get excluded. i get a visit once in a while, where she mostly talks to her daughter and things are feeling kind of strained between us. i get a few phone calls. and then boom. i get inundated with all the fun things she is doing with her OTHER friends. sooo that's all fine and dandy i guess. finally i just blew up at her, really lost it and told her to fuck off. (i know, nice right?) she says, oh never. you can say that but i won't let you not be my friend. ummmm ok...  because i think i have control over that honey. anyway, i kept thinking maybe she's right? to throw away 15 years of friendship?! was i crazy? but then husband and i got in a bind, to say we are NOT well off at the moment is understating it. but that's ok. he's just switched companies and we are going to be ok, it may take a while to get caught up but we will (how's THAT for being positive!). so i told her hey, "friend", husband and i are kinda in a bind can you help us out? do you know the reply i got? i got she still loves me. awwww! fuck that! i'm wayyyyyyyy to proud to go begging for shit (as in i never ask anyone for anything). but this time i HAD to for my family. so i did. and she loves me. i won't go into the bind we are in but suffice it to say that if she said the same to me i would not hesitate to help. so, you guys see what i'm saying? or am i a real bitch?